With this post. i would like to get enlightened..
by you guys.
Couples and Singles.
with this, im sure that you guys know what is this very post about.

i would like to ask you guys something that might be
obvious or simple to you guys .
i would like to know how to be a ...
Good stead?
well, saying it is easy
'' i want to, and will be a good stead to you!''
but how do we actually put that in action
how do we actually prove it?


Some may say,
buy things that your girl like for her.
others may say.
be there for her when she need you the most
support her, and have trust in her.
these are also the very things that i tell my friends
when they ask me things about stead.
but....
what if

i fall in love with a Strong girl
not physically strong, with bulky muscles sticking out of her body.
just imagine.
me holding hands with a muscle girl....
.... .... ..... ....
yeah you get what i mean.
ya a girl that
doesnt show her emotion to you.
even though you know that she is having trouble.
even thought you know that she needs help
and that whenever you ask her,
if she was ok?
if she want to talk to you about it?
if she needs your help?

she will always say
No need, she is fine, tell you next time..
sometimes or shall i say most of the time
i feel so helpless, useless
all i can do is just to stand there doing nothing...
hiax.
* sigh*

she is a great girl....
a unique girl
a girl that i truely love...
but sometimes she seems
emoitionally stronger than me...

i onces saw a show
and an actor said this
'' Love is like gardening, one party is the flower and the other is a gardener''
i wish to be the flower's gardener, but....
you can see the flower about to wilt and it needs water.
you ahve all the things you need, water hose, pipe, tap
everything
all you need is just to spray those water droplets on the flower
however, the flower is a... a... Rose
and its torns are surrounding it...
you can go anywhere near it...
hence all you can do
is just to stand there hopelessly
staring at the Rose, praying for it to get better
and if it wont, you cant do anything either...

i always say how much i love and care for you,
sometimes in those fancy and flashy words.
To you, these things comes naturally to me,
as though im saying just for the sake of saying.
But you are wrong. Really wrong.
these words are only said to you
no 3 person knows it or ever heard of it
but............ nevermind...

you always say that you know how much i love you.
But do you really know, in your heart you know the truth.
even i cant say how much i love you
as there is no word in the dictionary to be used to measure it
may be because my range of vocab isn't much
but, its just something that cant be said out
it must be FELT,
and have you feel it?
or have you not?

In life, i want alot alot alot of things.
i want to have alot alot of toys when i was young
i want to have alot alot of delicious food when i eat
i want to have alot alot of friends
i want to have alot alot of this and that
but no matter how alot alot i wan things
i only want ONE girl.
and that's enough
in this case it isn't
the more the merrier
but the quality that counts.........

Saying that you want to be a good stead is an easy thing
but doing it is another thing.
its one of the most difficult thing to fulfil in life.. believe me..
how many of you can be confident and step up now
and say that you are a good stead?
if you are, How good are you?
rating from 1 - 10, how many would you rate yourself?
and will that rating be lower or higher of what your partner will rate you?

Girls can be innocent and fragile
but they can also be Firm and Strong.
sometimes even stronger than we are.

How can I be a good stead?
How can I treat my girl better?
How do I know when does she needs me , when she always seems so strong and that she doesnt? How can i make her smile more?
How can I know when to give her more love and care, when she always seems that she have enough?
How can I be the little worm in her heart and mind, so that i can always know what she feels and think?
How can I make her feel comfortable and herself when she is with me?
How can I tell her that i need her when she has enough problem herself?
How?.... How?.. and only HOW???

Have you guys thought of this
May be it isnt the Girls that need us more.
is that WE, as guys need the girls more
just that we don't know that?

Who is the one that you will think of when you see a cute thing, a funny thing, a new thing.
who is the one that you wan to talk to when you are lonely, sad, happy, angry
Who??
you know it yourself....

Guys, if you think that you are a good stead...
think again....